For those of you interested in what motivates people I am including here two books I’ve recently read, reflecting the theme of engaging with others.
The five languages of love by Gary Chapman.
As leaders, I assume one of our roles is to communicate our appreciation of and expectations to those around us – including those in our personal lives. One book I have found helpful guidelines is Gary Chapman’s, the five languages of love. For love – read appreciation when applying this to your work colleagues or staff).
Long time friend and colleague Franceska Banga of NZ Venture Investment Fund recommended this book to me. Author Gary Chapman has worked out people have different ways they experience being appreciated. This suggests as leaders, we are likely to require versatility and appropriateness in how we express our appreciation of others. Appreciation is not a case of one size fits all. Chapman’s work gives us clues as to why some people don’t seem to either hear, nor do they accept our appreciation of them. Equally applicable within our personal and professional lives, learning the five languages is likely to assist leaders differentiate their approaches to building engagement with others.
The five dysfunctions of leadership teams by Patrick Lencioni. If you have ever experienced strong responses to your colleagues in leadership team meetings, and wondered what was happening, this book may provide some insights. Client Kim Burton-Wood from NZTA recommended book after finding it useful in describing some of the dynamics in groups he was working with. Using a story format, Lencioni introduces the usual suspects of interactions with a fictitious leadership team as they continued their work headed by a new leader. This new leader has the good fortune of having a solid understanding of the nature of interactions amongst leaders and team members and what is needed for executives as they shift their relationships from being isolated with their business unit, to collaborating for overall business achievement. This book can be a helpful guide for leaders in gaining an understanding of some of the dynamics which naturally occur when a group of people who have not specifically chosen each other as colleagues, are expected to work together.
Luxury weekend retreat for two located in rural Masterton olive grove www.blackrockrd.co.nz