Self-confidence and the Imposter Syndrome

Do you doubt your accomplishments? Do you experience a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud? The Imposter Syndrome is behind leaders’ and professionals’ lack of confidence. At least one of four factors produce this syndrome When you have achieved earlier goals and have yet to set future goals. In this intervening time, you have applied for and are appointed to a more senior position. This results in feeling you have yet to catch up with yourselfLeaders who...

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Remember Your Leadership Disciplines

We are in an age where new information, fads, innovations, trends, and social media flood us each day. In this flurry, it is easy to overlook or forget the simple disciplines which ensure we produce results. I love the creativity, colour and textures of preparing food. Then there is the delightful experience of eating home cooked food with family and friends. After travel books, recipe books are my most favoured; Yotam Ottolenghi, Heston Blumenthal, Adam Liaw, Ferran Adria, Gilli Basan,...

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Executive Presence: Increase your influence.

How well do you speak the language of results? Do you want to be more influential? Do you want to inspire others to success? The SSC 2016 Leadership Insights survey revealed 44% of leaders were not strong in influencing, inspiring or motivating others. What are the secrets the 56% who are strong in this area? There are at least 4 secrets Leaders who influence and inspire others have a particular secret. They talk results. They talk about their successes with...

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Don’t Apologize – It’s The Wrong Approach!

Are you a habitual apologizer? Do you work with people who are? Habitual apologies are time-wasting, put you on the back foot, divert attention from the matter at hand, and make it difficult to have peer relationships where people express themselves freely and candidly with one another. Pete and I were underway with our first coaching session. I was commenting on his CV, saying “Write your CV without personal pronouns. The ‘I’ belongs in your letter of application.” He apologized,...

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Who Controls Your Time – You or Your Boss?

Your work/life balance is in your hands and how much time you spend on each side is your choice. The choice is whether you make ‘your life’ a priority or not. Emergencies do require exceptional hours and for specific periods demands of your professional life may well creep into your personal life but, not as a given. Work/life balance is a catchy phrase. It is a concept that many aspire to, rather than live. Leaders become used to taking work home,...

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The key to a great working relationship with your manager

How successful is your relationship with your manager? And How productive are your conversations? Are your one-on-ones focused on issues? Coaching? Advice? Problem solving? Are you getting what you want from these meetings, or do you have the sense there is something more important you could be discussing? A key to having a powerful and positive relationship with your manager is to email a weekly report. This weekly report has four elements: 4 – 5 Highlights and successes of the...

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The Demise of the Rational Leader

The idea that successful leaders are rational is a myth. It’s just not true. In my book, I dismiss the idea that successful leaders are rational. This notion has been damaging for leaders because it takes people in the wrong direction and suggests that leaders lead functions, not people. In my book, Leadership Material , I emphasise that relationships and behaviour are two sources of success for leaders. There are at least eight other sources. Why is it that being rational doesn’t work? Because behaviour...

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Year End: Why are you feeling so tired?

Jen’s opening bid in our coaching sessions was ‘I’m tired. Exhausted really’. Letting her comment sink in, I looked at her and asked her ‘What’s making you tired?’ Knowing something of her work over the year I followed that with ‘think back to the start of this year, what new things have you done?’ What have you achieved this year?’  Yes, it is ‘year-end’ in New Zealand with December and January combining long summer vacations and a festive season.  Jen...

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Misreading popular leaders

What really draws people to leaders, people who want to help them achieve their vision? Journalists labeling New Zealand’s PM Ardern’s dramatic rise as mania implies thoughtless following. This is not so. Don’t be misled by click bait labels. So what has Jacindamania got to do with leading? Very little. How do we account for Ardern  attracting significant numbers of voters as she accepted the role of leader with one of New Zealand’s political parties and is now Prime Minister?...

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Save 100s of hours – the secret to great meetings: p4p

Have you ever rolled your eyes and silently steamed as individuals dominate, drone on endlessly, and talk over one another? Have you left meetings wondering what on earth was that about? How often have you known both you and others have more to contribute yet don’t get the chance? What enables people to make their best contribution succinctly? Astonishingly, many people don’t know how to contribute in meetings. Leaders leading meetings blur the power structures unless they use a process for participation. (P4P)  What is this?...

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